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Are you too shy to flirt ? Learn how to get over shyness

Last Update : June 13, 2018 by Ayana

Shyness affects some of us a lot more than to others. However whether you are introverted or extroverted you’ve probably feared rejection.

If you think being too shy is actually affecting your flirting possibilities or your search for love, Zoosk’s expert, Joan Actually has given some tips on how to face shyness and overcome the wall it can create in the search for romance.

We have summed it up to the 3 main rules to confront shyness by embracing it !


#1 Be comfortable with your shy side

Joan ActuallyZoosk’s blogger and expert, offers a series of videos with very interesting tips about how to face the main struggles that singles have to confront everyday.
In this case, shyness is a common struggle that despite its – we could say – popularity, can actually build a huge wall between a person and the rest of the world.

That is why, if you are shy, the worst thing you can do is to force yourself to not be what you are. Aka, embrace your shyness. Shy is indeed a part of your personality and you should learn to feel comfortable with it.

Instead of trying to pretend to be someone that you’re not (that will probably just increase your anxiety), Joan Actually recommends to « gravitate towards women that appreciate your mystery or your listening skills ».

Not everybody appreciate those people that want to be the center of attention. Discover the power of charm that a mysterious and lay back attitude can reach !

#2 Singles are keen to talk to other singles

If you want to a have a partner, but you’re really struggling with the fear of rejection, Zoosk´s specialist insists on the fact that singles are just waiting « for someone exactly like you to decide that rejection isn’t a good enough reason to sit back and miss opportunities ».

Everybody is worried about rejection, but if you don’t take a step towards your aims, nobody will ever come to knock on your door to ask you out.

Singles are very keen to meet other singles and by asking, talking or simply meeting you won’t loose anything.

The « no » is always with you, so what can you actually loose ?

#3 Control the way rejection affects you

Indeed, rejection is a scary word, but you have to keep in mind that if you get rejected asking somebody out, it could be for any number of reasons « many of which probably have nothing to do with you ».

Zoosk’s resident dating expert insist on the fact that rejection might and will probably happen as the reasons are almost infinite, however if you learn to deal with it in a mature and not victimised way, you will probably renew your approach to dating and asking out and you will discover that in trying lies the key to success in love and mostly, that your shyness might be your best seduction weapon !

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