We’ve put together a list of ways you might unintentionally be sabotaging your relationship. We hope this list will help you realise what you might subconsciously be doing and enable you to make some behavioural changes.
You concentrate more on the negatives than the positives.
The mind is a powerful thing and can change the way you perceive the world or certain situations. Focusing on the negatives in a situation like your partner being lazy or forgetful will put a downer on the relationship. Instead, focus on all the things they are like caring and attentive who can at times be absent-minded. It’s up to you who you spend your lifetime with, change your focus and you might see your partner in a whole new light.
You want to be right
We all make mistakes, its human nature. However how we respond to those mistakes is what can make or break our relationships. If you’re the one that messed up than apologise and don’t make excuses. If your partner is the one that made a mistake, be graceful and don’t respond in a righteous manner. This will avoid an argument and if you’re too hard on your partner they might not be so forthcoming with their mistakes in the future. Don’t sweat the small stuff, but stand firm with bigger blunders.
You’re being distant
Being open and honest with your partner is one of the most important things about being in a relationship. Caring is one of many reasons why people get into relationships so if you’re becoming more distant it might be a sign you’re sabotaging your relationship instead of helping it to grow.
When you’re so mad at your partner you find yourself not wanting to speak to them is known as withdrawal. However, this might make your partner react negatively and get angry at this behaviour and your disagreement might escalate. The best thing to in this situation is to find a moment to talk even if you feel like walking away from the situation. So next time, instead of going with your natural reaction and withdrawing, try and speak to your partner.